Posted by sunny10 on January 28, 2005, at 9:03:29
In reply to Re: People's perception of themselves-musing again » saw, posted by partlycloudy on January 28, 2005, at 6:46:09
Mostly women are taught to be their own worst enemy when it comes to how we look.
The simple fact is that most of the world's population of women do NOT wear sizes 0-12 !(American sizes)
Sabrina, in my family we are STICK skinny until about 19 (child services came to my house to make sure our mother was feeding us- they took one look at her skinny self and left with mumbled apologies), are slender until 36 (most women HATED to have me beside them out in public- I haven't managed to keep any of my friends), then POP on about 15 lbs- mine came all at once because of the Effexor (and had to replace my entire wardrobe)..... Frightening, really! Specially since the weight we gain is ALL cellulite (on stomach, thighs, even calves and arms). Truly revolting to me when I look in the mirror- sort of a slender person with too much skin that is swollen,hanging, and dimpled! (All this is even MORE revolting on my brother, I have to say...men don't usually get cellulite!)
But everyone I know tells me (when I am dressed, anyway)that they are relieved that I "finally look normal and healthy" ! Hmmm, I'm quite sure that my heart was healthier when the extra weight didn't make me run out of breath while climbing stairs, but others perception of me is COMPLETELY different than my own.
Does my experience help your theorizing? What's YOUR perception of the facts as I have represented them above (I have told you mine- I revolt myself now)....I'll bet it's not the same as mine of me!!!
-Sunny10
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