Posted by Toph on December 13, 2004, at 23:33:01
In reply to Re: Mother's Depression - -------- Hey TOPH?? » Toph, posted by Susan47 on December 13, 2004, at 21:26:51
From someone who has slapped me silly more than once for being , well, too silly, it's always nice to hear that you appreciate some of what I say. Now wouldn't have been nice if I actually said something that helped Genie cause I think I missed the mark. She may indeed need to coerce her mom to get clean as you suggested Susan because she is incapable of getting there herself. The hope would be that if she got clean that she would enjoy the praise she would receive and be motivated to stay that way. This may seem far out to you but some of my clients seem stuck in time and washing could seem psychologically like washing away the deceased in a sort of "I'll never wash my hand again after shaking (whomever is cool to you)'s hand". I only worry about the consequence of Genie having to get involved with role reversal, being mom to her own mom is rife with resentment, resistance and a sense of betrayal. A unified front from the whole family diffuses the blame off of Genie and on to everyone.
This is a tough one. It's why I don't sleep well at night thinking about work and Susan saying she loves me, of course.