Posted by Larry Hoover on December 12, 2004, at 15:45:23
In reply to Separate issue, posted by Dinah on December 12, 2004, at 14:11:47
> It's hard to find the sort of help he needs at home. I spent hours this morning trying unsuccessfully to line up someone for today after the support system my mother lined up failed as I predicted it would. She insists on looking after my dad with just her and a private worker, rather than an agency. That probably works out better than an agency short term. I like this woman. But she won't be here for Christmas, and in times of crisis, it makes it inordinately difficult to get anyone in. I finally decided this morning that if no one could come in, he'd have to go inpatient because I *couldn't* be relied on, as much as I'd like to be, when we couldn't find anyone.
Again, I hope I can help clarify the decision tree.
With private care, you will be on your own at Christmas, and that will be very likely too much to bear. Your dad will have to go to hospital, if any unusual events unfold.
Alternatively, if an agency is engaged now, you will have assurance of care over Christmas, but at a higher cost, and less personal care.
I hope you will reconsider contracting with an agency, so that the burden on you is not overwhelming. You can still be supportive and caring if you are yourself not overwhelmed. And, you have your own family to consider at Christmas, not just your mom and dad.
I'm sure you want your dad at home on Christmas, if it is at all possible. It's pretty unlikely, if you don't get the agency in soon.
Lar
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