Posted by gardenergirl on December 12, 2004, at 18:46:19
In reply to Above also for Emmy., posted by Dinah on December 12, 2004, at 18:26:22
Emmy's point makes a lot of sense. And Lar's advice to act as if the decision were already made.
I just want to add that while I think it's a wonderful sign of adaptablity that you are feeling as if you could provide personal care for your father if needed, I think your concerns about the potential toll on you are valid. Also, given it is the holidays, I think it would be sad if you were too emotionally drained to spend some quality time with your family...your own and your parents. I say leave the personal caregiving to the pros, albeit they aren't consistent it seems :( and save your physical and emotional energy for more important caring...heart to heart with those who matter.
I'll keep sending you hopeful and helpful energy as best I can.