Posted by Fi on October 10, 2004, at 8:48:57
In reply to Setting firm boundaries, posted by Dinah on October 9, 2004, at 21:47:34
Congratulations! As you will have seen from previous posts, we are absolutely fine with you saying exactly what you feel. Say what you like about your mother- it sounds a really good idea to use this board to do this. We'll give you a much more accurate view of the world than she does!
Its always hardest work to start with, just like with setting limits with a toddler. And she is behaving like a toddler who has had the chocolate taken away from her. Imagine her like that, if it gives you a laugh!
She only has the power over you that you choose to give her, tho I know that is hard to believe. Dont let your feelings about her drive you out of town or even to suicide- she's not worth it.
Of course she will complain about you to her contacts- it was handy for her having a slave!
Your behaviour is so healthy, and your feelings so natural. As has been said before, try to think about other things and give yourself a break. YOu deserve some treats.
And remember the board is here anytime.
Fi
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