Posted by Jai Narayan on August 21, 2004, at 12:07:08
In reply to Re: need to poke fun is a **trigger** for me » Jai Narayan, posted by Larry Hoover on August 21, 2004, at 9:40:36
> Before I begin my reply, let me say that I am renouncing my prohibition against your posting to me. I'm tentative about that, just so you know.
>
**Thanks Larry, it's such a relief to say your name again. I understand the tentativeness of your prohibition. Accepted.> Your sub-thread retained its seriousness. There were serious replies. In hindsight, it might make sense to create a new thread entirely, for playful asides? That can be done easily, by pasting it into the "Start a new thread" box.
**I didn't know that. It sounds so easy.
> One other aspect that you might consider is speaking up early on. Just a thought. I didn't know you were offended or hurt, until now. I'm sorry.**I can see that now but I was too hurt to do anything at first. I was going to just stop posting....but that never works for me.
> Hopefully, talking about it now makes that less chilling.**yes I feel so much better now.
> In hindsight, would owning your trigger sooner have prevented some of your emotional reaction? Would it have restored some sense of control over your environment, by being proactive, rather than reactive?
***funny thing about not being on top of my feelings is I am not on top of my emotions.
But you are right and it took all of this to help me see what I could have done.thanks Larry
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