Posted by Larry Hoover on August 21, 2004, at 9:40:36
In reply to need to poke fun is a **trigger** for me, posted by Jai Narayan on August 21, 2004, at 8:09:52
> > It is BECAUSE it is so serious that there is the need to poke fun. In my opinion, for whatever that's worth.
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> **Thank you for being honest AuntieMel.
> I appreicate it because I have been really confused emotionally by this thread.Before I begin my reply, let me say that I am renouncing my prohibition against your posting to me. I'm tentative about that, just so you know.
> Okay, so what message does that give me?
The only one I intended is that I was making fun of my name, and the implied link to the FBI. Other people picked that up, and off we go. The message is, "We are having fun, over here."
> If I want to be serious and get some support I will get someone poking fun at me?
Your sub-thread retained its seriousness. There were serious replies. In hindsight, it might make sense to create a new thread entirely, for playful asides? That can be done easily, by pasting it into the "Start a new thread" box.
> How would that work for you?
One other aspect that you might consider is speaking up early on. Just a thought. I didn't know you were offended or hurt, until now. I'm sorry.
> You may not know this but this making light of my serious concerns put a chill in my desire/need to post anything serious to this board.Hopefully, talking about it now makes that less chilling.
> This need to poke fun is a **trigger** for me?
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> OuchIn hindsight, would owning your trigger sooner have prevented some of your emotional reaction? Would it have restored some sense of control over your environment, by being proactive, rather than reactive?
Lar
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