Posted by JenStar on August 19, 2004, at 10:45:16
In reply to therapist - frustration w/non productive questions, posted by Lonely on August 18, 2004, at 14:37:31
Lonely,
maybe you need a different style of therapy? Maybe the psychodymanic approach isn't for you. How about cognitive/behavioral therapy? That style might offer more of the "life coaching" skills and advice that you're interested in, although those T's probably also would hesitate to venture out into 'the real world' with you on excursions.However, a therapist who offers group therapy might be good for you too. In the group setting, you get a chance to interact with others while the T observes, then can talk over the relationships & concerns with the T in your private sessions. Although it's still somewhat removed from the 'real world' it DOES give the T and you a chance to talk about how you relate to others.
Just a thought!
hope things get better.
JenStar
> I just made an appt. with a new therapist and am having major misgivings about it. He *does* have a corporate background so that's good (I'm dead stuck - not working now) but all the therapists I've seen for the last 4 years were women (I'm a woman also) and I think I'm more comfortable w/women. I talked to this guy's wife last June but she only works with children and recommended her husband.
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> Sometimes I think it is just such a waste of time when a therapist keeps asking why this and why that. I know they think they're digging for faulty thinking but quite often they just have a lack of knowledge. By the time I get through explaining a lot of complex medical and to some extent social (thankfully, no addictions, not suicidal but am depressed and very shy & perhaps easily hurt) issues I'm tired and irritated and don't feel I've gained anything. I think there ought to be less intrusive and less time-wasting methods of getting history & addressing issues (except the barebones of where one lives, age, general health, therapy history,) that allow me to get on with relationship and feeling cared for and advancing myself. Sometimes It seems like this has to do with the skill level of the therapist. Am I right?
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> Last time I said to the therapist that she was wasting my time. She said "okay, what do you want to talk about?" I said I didn't know and it didn't matter anyway. I come in and talk about things and go home and am not any better.
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> Is this what other people experience? Somehow, I'm not getting much out of this. Oh, this guy says he uses a psychodynamic approach but already I'm not so sure I like him.
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