Posted by Lonely on August 18, 2004, at 22:54:55
In reply to Re: therapist - frustration w/non productive questions » Lonely, posted by mair on August 18, 2004, at 22:20:49
Thanks - good point about the way we are relating in therapy. I hope to think about and look for that. Even perhaps bring it up to the T to see what he/she is thinking about it.
I guess the other downer side though, to me, is that therapy is very contrived and in a sense, phony. It is not at all a natural, normal, real-world setting. I virtually begged my first T (the one who died) to please go to some places (literally, in the geographical sense) where I wanted to improve such as social skills and interactions at prof. meetings or some minor social events. Not that we needed to socialize there ... but I wanted her observations and feedback. I still suspect that there must be some therapists somewhere who could see that as a healthy process and provide insight. That one never did and those I've run into I doubt would do it. I like the idea of respectful boundaries but they can get in the way if the therapist lets them.
I guess the other thing is that I don't care for contrived bonds. So, I don't exactly see therapy as a microcosm of the real world.
But, maybe there is a process that is helpful and where I can learn with the right person so I thank you again for sharing.
> Sometimes I feel like I must be getting nowhere because I find my T and I are talking about something we talked about in depth months ago. It's makes me feel like I must be unbelievably dense - not to have learned enough from the last conversation.
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> I have to remind myself that a therapeutic relationship is all about process, and sometimes it's not so important what you're talking about as it is how you're relating with one another and the bond you might be forging with your therapist. It requires incredible patience, particularly for result-oriented folks like me.
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