Posted by AuntieMel on August 13, 2004, at 16:45:02
In reply to My daughters life.........., posted by woolav on August 12, 2004, at 15:21:17
Been there, done that.
She graduated a year ago, so the memory is still fresh. The public school we were zoned into had gone way, way downhill since we moved there. I TRIED to get my daughter to go to private school - it would be cheaper than moving - but she would have none of that.
So, we moved. Exactly 3.4 miles north. Into a MUCH better school.
If you do it, you'll need to be extra, extra, extra patient. The first year of high school is really frightning *without* it being a new school. There will be a pretty good adjustment period.
If she decides to do this (and I think for the long term it would be better if she did) you could help by playing up the range of activities, more choice in classes, etc.
Sorry to disagree with B2c, but unfortunately, in lots of schools, clothes and stuff *are* important and it is important that she feel on equal footing. I truly believe that if they are that shallow they aren't good friends, but it's dang hard to explain that to a teenager. It doesn't have to be Abercrombie, but until she knows her way around it shouldn't be WalMart either. Might check out consignment stores. I wish my daughter had explained that part to me before she graduated! I think designer stuff is a waste of money, but ........
Not to scare you away, though. Another thing that works is "funk" - purposely being different.
Ok, enough about the clothes hassle. You asked about therapy. I'm doubtful that she needs full scale therapy. But maybe a few sessions with a third party 'counselor' to discuss fears and issues about this one thing would be in order. Come to think about it, wish I had.......
On the hopeful side - they *do* grow up. It's only going to last a few years.....
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