Posted by JenStar on August 12, 2004, at 15:39:13
In reply to My daughters life.........., posted by woolav on August 12, 2004, at 15:21:17
Hey...you seem like a pretty cool person! Ending up like you would NOT be bad! :)
I don't know much about teenagers, so please take my advice with a grain of salt.
What I believe to be true (folks, please correct me if I've got it wrong!): Teenagers feel emotions with an intensity that burns hot. They are prone to over-exaggerate sometimes, not because they're trying to be manipulative, but because they are flooded with conflicted feelings and tensions that overwhelm them. If they feel sad about something, they are SAD SAD SAD, and if they feel happy, they are DELIGHTED. And if they want two opposing things (more friends, but also comfort), they are going to feel REALLY conflicted.
I think it's possible, as you said, that your daughter will really end up liking the bigger school and the increase in choices once she gets used to it. It's normal to want to pull back from a challenge, esp a social one, if she's not used to a large class.
Do the kids seem nice there? Do you think she can fit it?
Could you make a deal with her: Try it for year, and if you really really hate it, we'll move you back to the other one? Hopefully by that time she'd be loving the new one.
I think it's OK to push kids gently into a new place if you believe it's good. And you said it is better academically, has other features that you like. If the kids don't seem like little stuck-up meanie brats, then hopefully she'll find that she loves it there.
good luck! let us know what you decide.
JenStar
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