Posted by JenStar on August 10, 2004, at 10:46:27
In reply to Re: Why won't she talk to me?!?!, posted by TexasChic on August 10, 2004, at 10:11:44
hi Texas Chic,
sorry about this whole mess! I feel for you.
Do you think it might help to ask her to go out for a cup of coffee with you to talk about your friendship? Or dinner or a drink, or something like that? You could meet at a quiet-ish place and have a frank discussion about what's all going on. Maybe that way you'd both feel more comfortable opening up. Maybe she's afraid to talk about it because she doesn't know how to mix a friendship with work issues, and by being silent it allows her to keep working and avoid her feelings.It's hard to read what she's doing. Maybe she's just being mean by ignoring you...maybe she honestly doesn't know how to respond...maybe she's torn between two responses and doesn't know which to give...maybe she feels really guilty b/c of how she treated you, but at the same time feels like she too has been mistrated; she doesn't have the courage to apologize and is also hoping for an apology of her own...
(In real life I'm sometimes a 'relationship wimp' so it's easy for me to offer gutsy advice here, on the web!)
Anyway, I hope things get better. From your posts it seems to me that you're a fun-loving person who really cares about trying to salvage this friendship, at least as much as you can. I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you. Keep us updated!
JenStar
PS - how are things with the boss lately? Any better?
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