Posted by DaisyM on August 8, 2004, at 11:57:49
In reply to How do I leave him?, posted by All Done on August 8, 2004, at 11:35:49
I can feel your heart aching and it touches me. (I completely understand, one of my "babies" goes back to college on Friday and it is crushing.)
It is totally OK that this is all about you. It means your child is blessed with a mom who loves him completely...and loves being with him. Do you know how many parents I deal with that don't like being with their kids? Now that is sad.
Here is the really hard part of parenting. Doing what you have to, what is good for him (preschool) even when you don't want to. It is so much easier to do something hard when you are "mad" at them. But when things are going along smoothly...you have to force yourself.
And remember, no matter where he is, you are with him. He carries his mommy with him, soothing his hurts, saving things to tell you, always ready with a hug. Learning that the people who love you are coming back to get you is a huge gift to give him.
And it is totally OK to cry after you drop him off. I was so bad at the begining of each Fall about leaving my kids that they banned me from dropping them off at school. They had dad take them, because mom cries. :)
One of the best pieces of advice someone gave me was that when I get home from work each night, drop all my stuff and sit down with my kids. Allow some "re-bonding" time. Don't rush to start dinner, or do the mail, or whatever. Just sit. Kids will hang around, sit on your lap, whatever, for about 1/2 hour or so and then they will be more settled and you can go do those other things. This worked really well for me. I didn't stress out about them being under-foot and they didn't cling so hard trying to get my attention.
He sounds like such a sweet little guy. Get a great picture to put on your new desk.
Oh, and, congrats on the new job!!
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