Posted by daisym on June 23, 2004, at 0:00:54
In reply to Self Centered, posted by littlep24 on June 22, 2004, at 21:23:57
You are probably being much too hard on yourself. Most people don't really notice when you aren't completely "there" anyway. They are focused on themselves.
I am so much more comfortable helping, listening and problem solving for another. It is part of my job, so I've had a lot of training, but it is also a defensive posture for me. Nobody gets too close, I quickly turn the conversation around to them. Children are epecially easy to focus in on and they are happy to "take" from you. I love listening to kids talk.
Life is not a competition. Sometimes you give and sometimes you take. It most likely balances over time. Hopefully you have people in your life that can allow you the space you need and their support and help. Your turn to listen and support will come for sure.
I don't know if this is what you were looking for. I just don't want you to feel bad about yourself.
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