Posted by ramsea on June 19, 2004, at 1:34:34
In reply to Re: why people ignore me » ramsea, posted by AuntieMel on June 18, 2004, at 15:37:08
Some people are so poorly equipped to be parents. They really don't have a clue, and seem to be operating from a core of fear and anger. It's so sad. Your lifestory (what I have read of it) just makes me pain for the little kid who wanted so much to be just accepted and cared for in a simple, true way. How hard is that? From the evidence of this sorry world, it's very hard. But possible.
It's also sad how abused kids can doubt themselves so much, can think they made it up or it wasn't so bad or it was really their fault anyway. The best thing about psychotherapy and one of the best things of the 20th century in my mind, is how abuse has come into the open. Even 50 years ago it was common to read statements that made it sound like everything was alleged and not so bad and maybe they asked for it, or dismiss it with a joke. I am truly thankful that children have been listened to and the law is now on their side. What you describe is emotional abuse, plus physical abuse, and it is every bit as damaging as sexual abuse.
I don't mean to go on, I am just really moved by your share and this is the way that I hug (I'm not real good at touchy stuff like group therapy hugs, etc), by talking honestly. I hear your pain and I believe that the little child in you deserved much, much more protection, compassion, encouragement, and guidance. I hope life takes a gentle turn for the better for you. ANyway, I'm gad we talked.
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