Posted by ramsea on June 18, 2004, at 3:07:52
In reply to Re: why people ignore me, posted by B2chica on June 17, 2004, at 12:24:32
I have always loved that saying by Pop Eye. Like you I even quote it! We are always walking this thin line between self-improvement and self-acceptance. It's a gift to discover where we really have limits to growth and where we can push some more at our comfort zone. I have personally tried very hard all of my life to fit and be socially right. At age 9 I spent hours in the town library reading all of the self-help and personality plus books I could. I think I learned a lot how to present an image of some acceptability, but for me the confidence I can display is a weak veneer. It's like the front of houses in old Western movies. Once the lights shut down, you could knock the tavern over with a feather.
All I can say, B2 is that it's good that you know who you are, which your letter seems to say. To borrow from midwifery, don't push when it's better to just breathe. That's been one big mistake for me. You sound like you've saved yourself some misery and were more accepting of your true self--I wish I had been as clever. I was all act as if and it wil come true--but it didn't. So I set myself up for failure. Now I will try to live more carefully.
Keep well, thanks for writing.
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