Posted by deirdrehbrt on June 18, 2004, at 16:43:41
In reply to Re: expectations » deirdrehbrt, posted by Angel Girl on June 18, 2004, at 10:57:21
Angel Girl,
You hit on one point that is really important. That's the difference between sadness and depression. Listen to people sometimes, you'll hear so many people who say "I'm so depressed" when something relatively minor happens in their life, like their computer broke, or their pet goldfish died.
So they can't go online with the convenience that they could before, so they have got to get a goldfish. These are things that can make someone sad, but it's not depression; not at all. But people equate this sadness to depression, and think that what we have is what they called depression.
People look at those advertisements on TV late at night by the makers of antidepressants. "Are you sad? Have you lost interest in things? Then you might have depression" You know what? Yeah, I'm sad. I'm so d*mned sad that I don't want to live anymore. Lost interest? Lost interest in living. Kinda different from what most people experience. I have to fight to want to stay alive.
Other people aren't going to get it. Sometimes when people will ask me if I want to do something with them, I might strain myself to do it. Very rarely, I might even enjoy it. Often though, I just find a way to avoid doing it.
Probably the biggest problem with being depressed is that you are so incredibly tired, almost all of the time. If you told people you had chronic fatigue, maybe they would understand. Rather than being a little sad, you're simply unable to do things. I don't think that it's way off to say that you have chronic fatigue when you are terribly depressed. Maybe explaining it that way might help a bit.
I don't know.....Dee.
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