Posted by TexasChic on June 2, 2004, at 12:31:21
Well, I went on my weekend trip I told some of you about. It was going pretty well when one of my friends got drunk and proceeded to verbally tear me apart! She was yelling, and just so mean, and so vicious! I kept trying to reason with her until finally I ran out of the camp sobbing. It was so unbelievingly awful. My other friend and her boyfriend were elsewhere when this happened.
I found a place to sit and cry, and sobbed for about 2 hours. Other campers kept walking by me, and finally a very nice guy stopped and talked to me for about 30 minutes. He invited me back to his camp, which I would have done except that I was still unable to stop crying. He told me if I was still there in another hour, he was coming to get me. It was really very sweet. I didn't even get his name.
After talking to him I decided to go back to camp. I walked up and everyone was there, and no one really paid any attention to me. So of course I lost it and asked my friend (not the one who yelled at me) if they hadn't even wondered what happened to me, and told her I was off sobbing the whole time because the other girl was mean to me. She said she thought I was off having fun somewhere and that they did try to look for me. I felt like she was being so cold though and it really upset me. I was actually more upset with her than the other girl!
Everyone went in their tents so I took their things out of my car and was preparing to leave and go find a motel when the non-yeller friend ran out of her tent to stop me. We had been drinking earlier in the day and she didn't want me to drive because of that and the fact that I didn't know my way around. She said I was over reacting, which made me mad because she hadn't even bothered to ask me what the other girl had said to upset me so much. She finally got me out of the car, and started talking to me, and we talked maybe a couple of hours or more – mainly just about trivial things. I told her about the nice guy, which she thought was cool. I know she made a real effort to comfort me, but the fact that she thought I was over reacting because I have in the past really bothered me. We've have a tumulous relationship, but she really does seem to care and has put up with alot from me. I've come to her crying a least a half dozen times in the year and a half that I've known her, and most times it was my own paranoia. So this time I felt like the boy who cried wolf.
The next day the yeller-girl said she was sorry for 'hurting my feelings' which isn't the same as saying she was sorry for what she said and did. Then she offered to have her daughter to come pick her up (we had rode up together – a four+ hour drive). I told her that wasn't necessary and we eventually drove home. I was sick with a sinus infection (it had started that night), so I slept most of the way (at her insistence).
So that's the story, here's my after the fact worries. First off, I don't know if I really want to hang out with the yeller-girl anymore, but we all work together, so I have to see her everyday. I also know she was drunk and at least made an attempt at apologizing. The thing is, the whole thing was so *traumatizing* for me! I mean really, really traumatizing. So I just don't know how to handle her now. I know if I just stop talking to her, my other friend will think I'm out of line since she thinks I was over reacting.
The second worry is about the other friend. I'm still bothered by the fact that she never asked me what was said that upset me that badly. On the other hand, I'm also worried that this may be the final straw for her. I don't think I mentioned it was her birthday weekend we were celebrating. But I would never have purposely ruined it for her! I think *anyone* in my position would have been extremely upset. They might not have cried all night, but I don't think I was out of line wanting to leave (I felt enough time had passed since we had been drinking myself).
So now I'm left wondering if I did indeed over react and maybe there is just something wrong with me. And if this something is the reason I seem to lose all my friends.
poster:TexasChic
thread:353040
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