Posted by spoc on April 26, 2004, at 21:55:35
In reply to Re: invisibility, posted by Dinah on April 26, 2004, at 20:57:24
> And that's where bulletin boards come in really handy. If you want to know what on earth flaming amygdalas or SPOW is, the search engine is a click away. And presto, you are "in" on the shared language and history. >
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I've used that concept, and tried to join in speaking about the thing or giggling about it (whatever it is in a particular case), and people will still go around a person, clinking their glasses over their head.---
> Some people you might fall instantly in love with. Some people you might grow to appreciate over time.>---
That is of course true and natural and no disgrace. But this also may just not be a good medium for all, for reasons attributable only to themselves of course (like I go on too long in many cases as part of my issues; but I have posted much more brief stuff and things intended to benefit someone else). Because *if* it's harder here than it has been in someone's real life -- including in writing -- it might not be a good message for them to start getting about themself now. And some may do better if they fixed their problems first, but then they probably wouldn't need to be here period, so it's another paradox. Of course nothing can work for everyone, that's just the way it is. However, I am confident in saying that this could work for *more,* if people would be a bit more cognizant of some patterns that are easy to fall into.Please note that I definitely don't mean that people who click shouldn't flock together and enjoy it. I'm just saying, it is not unusual for people to talk around someone on a thread, even if that person speaks of the thing at hand, in context; and sometimes even if they try >> to get someone's attention. Just the facts ma'am! I know you are sincere and sincerely don't see the forest of which I speak through the trees. And I like and respect you, and don't want this all to bring you down! :- )
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