Posted by lonelygirl on April 26, 2004, at 17:04:33
In reply to no friends, low lowlow, posted by ramsea on April 26, 2004, at 13:26:14
Hi ramsea,
Sorry to hear about your friend troubles. I don't have any friends either. I have never had more than a couple of friends at a time, but the last time I had any friends at all was probably 6 or 7 years ago. (I have also never had a boyfriend, or even been on a date.) So, I know how you feel. I also know what you mean about people getting irritated. It's almost like people get mad at me for having no friends -- as though they're offended if I mention it! Therefore, I usually don't, and then people just ignore me for the most part.
There have been a couple other people here on Babble recently who have expressed similar frustrations about being (for lack of a better term) cyber-ignored. It is unfortunate. : (
I know how that is, too! I have a livejournal and an opendiary, and I'm lucky if I get a single note on an entry that I post in both places. Livejournal even keeps track of how many notes you leave and how many you receive, and my totals are very lopsided (I leave many, many more than I receive). I probably shouldn't waste my time writing all those long entries because nobody ends up reading them anyway, but as you said, it's just about my only "outlet." (I don't even have much contact with my family.)
I have also been on other message boards where I've had experiences similar to what you described. I usually stick around for a fairly long time, but eventually, I just get tired of it and move on to somewhere else. I used to post on healthboards, and I mostly tried to answer other people's questions and "be supportive," but every so often, I asked a question, and nobody ever answered!!! Last year, I found an unofficial web site for my school, which includes message boards, and it seemed like as soon as I posted on a thread, it just died -- nobody else posted after me. I have over 100 people on my AIM "buddy list," but I have gone weeks without getting a single IM (and most of the IMs I do get are from my mother, usually to nag me about something).
I would suggest you try the Babble-Open chat room, but that seems to cause even more problems sometimes...
Well, sorry to be so long-winded, and sorry to see that you are experiencing this, because I know how much it stinks.
poster:lonelygirl
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