Posted by 64Bowtie on March 27, 2004, at 13:35:15
In reply to Re: how do you guys meet healthy people? » bookgurl99, posted by octopusprime on March 27, 2004, at 11:43:44
> so maybe it's different things leading us to the same place - low self-esteem versus obligation. it's hard to unlearn childhood patterns as an adult.
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<<<Great response! Thanx for posting this point!This is why I suggest a "rite of passage" ritual; an "emancipation" ritual around age 15. There is no guarantees, and this is not just simple and perfect. And, we have 15 years of history to process.
To our advantage, we no longer are stuck with childhood resources to process things with. After the "genetic God" is done upgrading our life toolbox, we then can take the next 10 years to practice and perfect our skills with the tools.
25 yearolds have a much better view of their lives than 15 yearolds do. So assuming that it all must be resolved and perfect immediately, is the common mistake of all youth. I did it. Trust me... I woke up one day when I was 40, frightened at what I saw (and didn't see). So much for immediate!
Armed with the courage we gain by the "emancipation" send off, we can enjoy the "new". One new and exciting item is new people. When they are 15, too, they are just as flakey as we might feel.
Please don't evaluate the "self" based on what other people only let us see. Challenge them. They will respect us and we will have fun meeting new folks.
Rod
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