Posted by gardenergirl on March 1, 2004, at 1:02:35
In reply to Re: flight or fight -- or FREEZE » Jai Narayan, posted by Racer on March 1, 2004, at 0:25:59
I'm a freezer, too. (okay, that sounds a bit Gestaltish, but you know what I mean) LOL.
I really do freeze. I can't fight. The very idea appals me. At times I think I should take a self-defense course, but I just don't know if I could. I like to think that I would flee, but one time when I should have, I froze, instead. It took a long time to work through my feelings about being attacked and doing nothing. I'm not sure if it is resolved or repressed.
But anyway, to answer your question...I think I come here more times during a given day if I'm not doing well. I tend to support more than ask for support, but I'm getting better at asking for it. Especially since I am so secure that there is support here for me.
When I'm doing well, I find I get too busy to spend as much time here. I do miss it, or feel guilty if I can't join every thread that catches my interest. But I'm much less paralyzed or procrastinating when I feel good.
Interesting topic.
gg
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