Posted by deirdrehbrt on February 26, 2004, at 21:50:45
In reply to Re: Fluoxetine and Alcohol « inthegloaming, posted by Dr. Bob on February 25, 2004, at 22:54:27
Hello.
Some words may be splatted as triggers.My personal opinion is that when a person is incapacitated, no-one should take advantage of them. You have every right to be upset.
Depending on the laws in your state, the event, as you described it could be considered a sexual assault. In my state, NH, it could be so interpreted. Sexual assault is not the same thing as r*pe.
I volunteered for some time as a r*pe crisis counselor, and what I said above is what I would have told a caller. I would have also told them that they were not at all at fault. You were not at all at fault. You have nothing at all to be ashamed of.
We weren't allowed to tell someone how to deal with their medications, but I think that I would like to offer some things from my experience.
First, In my own case, I have found that antidepressants do not mix with alcohol. Not only can they have unpredictable effects when used together, but alcohol can VERY QUICKLY make me depressed. In my case, I wind up doing things, going places, and feeling quite differently from what I would have if I hadn't been drinking. I've decided that if I want to stay stable, I don't drink.
Please know that I'm not trying to tell you what to do; I'm only saying what my experience is. You'll have to decide for yourself what works for you.
I think you're very brave for discussing your experience here. It's important to be able to talk to people who aren't judgemental. Too many people blame the survivor, perhaps to hide from the truth that there are too many violent and evil people in the world.
You weren't to blame. You did nothing wrong. You have the right to pursue or not any action that you feel you need. Please take care of yourself. Please do what you need to feel comfortable and at peace. You might also want to call your local sexual assault crisis line. They can talk to you longer and help you understand where the lines are and how to stay safe.
I'm sorry that this happened to you. You didn't deserve it. You did nothing that warranted the behavior of the other person. You aren't dirty, you aren't bad. You are just someone who was taken advantage of. You are someone who has a right to every single feeling you are feeling right now.
Take care of you,
((((((((((inthegloaming)))))))))))Dee.
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