Posted by Susan J on January 14, 2004, at 13:28:12
In reply to Re: Scary Internet Dating Dude » Susan J, posted by Racer on January 14, 2004, at 13:14:42
> 1. "good looking, well off gentleman" means "makes enough money to forgo the trouble of having a personality", etc.
<<Too funny! I like that!
> 2. Get a free email account, and don't give out your real name. Hell, I didn't even give out my first name until I felt safe!
<<I've got a free one, but I have told them my name. But it's Susan, which is VERY popular in my age group. I work with about 5 others.>>Better be thought suspicious than to risk danger.
<<The couple of guys I've told directly that I don't want to give out my home phone number just yet took it personally and never contacted me again. I don't know if they were up to something bad, or truly insulted, or what.
>At this point, I think he's as cute as a bug, and we can still spend long periods talking about all sorts of things. If his looks had chased me away, I'd have missed out in a big way.
<<I'm the same way. A person's looks grow on me, and when I'm in love, *he* is the most handsome man on the planet. The only *requirement* I have is that he's taller than me. I feel bad, sometimes, wondering if I'm missing out on something by not contacting some guys who are 5'6" or shorter....maybe one of them's the right one.But I do have a question. Do you think chemistry is created, or just *is?* For example, there is an absolutely model-gorgeous guy who works with me, he's funny and charming and smart, and I'm totally *NOT* attracted to him. Doesn't matter either way -- he's married. I just wonder if there has to be an instant chemistry to have any chance.
>>The first time he ever called me by a nickname, it was the one my mother had used for me -- which he didn't know -- and that was the magic sign that he was The One for me. Funny, it happened when I wasn't looking for it.)
<<That's really cool. I am beginning to think I'll never meet a guy who *gets* me.... I *am* kinda weird. :-)
I'm happy to report that a seemingly normal guy e-mailed me, seems to be quite intelligent, and looking for something that could lead to an LTR. We seem to have a lot of the same interests. It was nice to get a letter from a normal guy, after the week I've had. Don't know if it'll go anywhere, but having a regular guy show a bit of interest felt good.If something doesn't click in the next couple of weeks, I'm stopping. It's my busy season at work now. I love being totally single, and I love being in a committed relationship, but I *hate* just dating around. I find that stressful. I was only doing it to get to know some guys outside my own little click. We'll see. :-)
Susan
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