Posted by jane d on January 13, 2004, at 12:32:42
In reply to Re: The e-mail » Miss Honeychurch, posted by Susan J on January 13, 2004, at 12:09:44
Susan,
I have absolutely no idea if his behavior should be setting off alarm bells because I know nothing about dating etiquette. So the following should not be interpreted as urging you to ignore your gut feelings.I have noticed that people have very different attitudes toward cell phones. I tend to view them like regular phones, where people may or may not be available at any given time, no explanation needed. I carry one with me for emergencies - not so I will be availabe for casual conversations at any time.
Some of my friends (who drive me crazy) treat their phones as a way to be "together" with people all the time. They use them to make the kind of comments that I would make to someone walking next to me. Trivial but social. Or they call to get continual updates. Where are you now? I'm 30 miles away. Five minutes later "Where are you now?" "25 miles away". By 24 miles away I have probably stopped answering: then the calls start coming every 2 minutes instead of every five and I've angered my friend as much as if I had ignored them when I met them on a street corner. And I'm angry too by then. I suspect that pre cell phones these are people who would have made a point to be with other people all the time, where I have always liked time alone.
OK. Ramble over. Good luck.
Jane
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