Posted by Susan J on January 13, 2004, at 12:08:31
In reply to Re: Scary Internet Dating Dude, posted by Ilene on January 13, 2004, at 11:48:16
>>He could be a guy who just plays by slightly different rules. Maybe he's just overeager, but not actually creepy. No way to know.
<<He just really creeped me out. When someone tells me I can give them a call, I'll call when they say they're available, and if there's no answer, I leave a message, telling them they can give me a call back if they'd like to.Part of the problem is I gave him my cell number because I don't want people to have my home number, which is more easily traceable to a physical location. But I don't get a good signal in my house on the cell phone. I knew I was going out again that night and I was going to call him back when I got in a *good* area while driving. In the mean time, the phone just kept on ringing. And ringing. And ringing. And each time it made me more and more anxious.
> I think it's important to act by the commonly accepted rules of etiquette,
<<Yes, I generally agree with you and I do *try* at least, to be polite. I think I gave this guy my number too quickly. The only thing that overrules manners, here, is personal safety. That's my only concern at this point....if I continue contact with him to tell him *why* I was bothered, he might continue to call me.
>> No telling him off or stalking off in a huff. Be prepared for him to demand an explanation as to why he was out of line by calling more than once.
<<No, I'll be polite about it. That's why I *write* it in e-mail rather than talk on the phone. I can compose something nicely with thought rather than getting caught up in the tension of the moment.Thanks!
Susan
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