Posted by Susan J on January 1, 2004, at 13:41:50
In reply to Economics of depression...feeling like s**t :-(, posted by jay on December 30, 2003, at 21:53:39
Hi, Jay,
It's so hard to not *value* money and nice things because it seems to be the only thing our culture cares about. But honestly, it's all *so* superficial. Sorry for burdening you with an old country song: :-)
*Hard times* is a daddy and a mamma,
Living in a mansion and *hating* each other.
*Hard times* is the children too
Racking their brains about who loves who.Painful as our journeys are, here, with depression and whatever else we are fighting, we are forced to learn so much more about ourselves, and about mental and emotional health. Even in our pain, the joys we *do* have are so much more real than those people have who live for money.
>> Lost my health, finances, good job.
<<Trust me, I can empathize. I still feel that way. Sometimes I think depression is like weight lifting. In weightlifting, you tear down the muscle in order for it to grow back stronger. In depression, we hit our own personal pits of hell before we can become emotionally stronger, too. Maybe you are still tearing down those muscles and you're getting ready to build yourself up stronger (possible new job and all that, way to go!).>>yet if I try dating, women are going to think I am some kind of freak living at home with my folks at 34.
<<Don't be ashamed about living with your parents. Instead of putting out energy needed to get a house/apartment/car/whatever, you are putting that energy into getting better. I think that's admirable.Do you *have* to tell women right away you are living with your parents? When I first start dating a guy I don't grill him about his living arrangements, as long as he's not living with a wife or girlfriend. :-) I mean, is that something that can come up if/when you tell them about dealing with depression? Your living situation makes TONS of sense in that context.
No disappearing allowed. :-) Hang in there,
Susan
poster:Susan J
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