Posted by jay on January 1, 2004, at 0:54:46
In reply to I hear you, man, posted by Medusa on December 31, 2003, at 3:17:20
> > here he doesn't even have a college diploma, yet owns a house,
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> unfortunately there's more to it than college=job security. sometimes the kind of work one has to do to get a degree doesn't match up with the kind of work one has to do to get the house and trappings.
>Ya, I definitely know what you mean, but I know his job, and I know about how much he likely makes. It surely ain't *that* much. After thinking it through, I am positive he had a load of money handed down to him....but that doesn't matter.
Not *that* much of a big deal...but just made me feel a bit lower on the pole. I think what bugs me the most is if weren't for this F**king illness (like everyone says), I had, and maybe do have (if I get my s**t together.), a chance at a nice well-paying job. It's just these little things that jump out of nowhere and jab you once in awhile.
> >yet if I try dating, women are going to think I am some kind of freak living at home with my folks at 34.
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> Jay, how 'bout if you forget the dating thing for a while, and focus on working on your relationship with yourself and with your parents? If you do this, I guarantee you'll land a much nicer long-term lay.
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> Have you read _Family Evaluation_ by Michael Kerr and Murray Bowen? It seems to have been written for doctors, but since you're a sort of mental health professional I'm sure the technical bits won't stand in your way. Anyway, it cuts to the quick. Even though it's not titled "how to get hot dates drooling over you by working out your family-of-origin issues", it's the closest thing I've seen.
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> If you do get the Kerr/Bowen book (try a >library, because it's not cheap), let me know. >I'd definitely be interested in discussing it >here.Ya..thanks..I'll look for the book. So...ya I'll just chill for the time being. My second interview for this job I desperately want should be shouldered up in the next two weeks. I am a little scared, obviously, but I have tons of experience and am good at what I do, and that really helps.
Anyhow...thanks for listening to my rant..:-)
Jay
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