Posted by octopusprime on October 22, 2003, at 21:32:17
In reply to Re: Sensitive material/ octopus, posted by kara lynne on October 22, 2003, at 2:27:58
> Are my expectations too high for anyone to fulfill? That's what my ex would certainly have you believe. My brother would say the same. On the other hand a woman at work won't be my friend because I didn't return a call to her six years ago.
kara lynne, i just wanted to chat about expectations.
i don't think your expectations are too high. you expect a consistent friend that returns your emails in a timeframe measured in days, not months. that is not unreasonable. you expect to speak honestly about situations as they occur, and to address situations fairly. also not unreasonable.
however, some people can't meet your needs or expectations. that doesn't mean that your needs and expectations are wrong or too high. that means the people you are interacting with just don't have the capability inside themselves to meet your expectations. the reasons for this incapability are not important, and probably have absolutely nothing to do with you.
although we frequently assert that humans are rational beings, some humans behave irrationally and without regard to others' feelings in the best of situations.
lousy answer, i know. if there is a rock under which nice respectful people are hiding, people that return phone calls and emails in a timely fashion, please point it out to me! i'd like to meet some of these people too! i know they exist, somewhere ...
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