Posted by Chicklet on October 7, 2003, at 8:07:09
In reply to The Last of My Amends...., posted by galkeepinon on October 7, 2003, at 3:36:54
>>>>> *st. james*>>> I am sorry that you were affected by my actions, I was going through a very difficult time, and am working on getting better.
This is an apology AND an excuse.>>>>*zeliva*>>>even though you called me a 'B****', and yes, I called you some ugly names, I'm sorry for my part and the words I said that were mean to you. I didn't appreciate you conversing with my friend online behind my back. Maybe you were trying to help, but after I found out what you said, it made me want to fight back with you more, I eventually stopped~you know that. I'm sorry for my part concerning you.
It's not 'making amends' for others if you continue to bring up what they did to you in the context of your apologies. You want to say you're sorry...EVEN though, she called you a bitch. wow.
>>>>>I'm fixing it from my end.
that's what you may think, but I don't think that it's that simple, Kristen. Maybe this will assuage your guilt..and I do see that you are TRYING to make things right...but that's not really the way it works.
>>>>>> It is others' choices whether they want to forgive me, I can only make amends.
nah, that's not really all you can do.
And please stop speaking of "others" choices about "whether they WANT to forgive you". You seem to be looking at this in a backwards fashion.>>>>I have a right who I want to respond to now after all this is said and done.
Yup that's your right, but don't expect warm welcomes left and right.
>>>>>and I will not allow the people I hurt and who weren't even involved to accuse me of making excuses.
What qualifies as "involved" for you?
And you can't really stop people from expressing their opinions about this whole thing.
As far as I'm concerned I see it as you making excuses. It's not an accusation.So. Good luck with all that.
It's just not going to die down for a while. i hope you understand that. You aren't making things better.
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