Posted by Adia on October 3, 2003, at 22:55:03
In reply to Any ideas on how to keep me sane?, posted by Wildflower on October 3, 2003, at 9:42:44
Hi Wildflower,
It's hard for other people to understand...if they haven't experienced this or don't know...
My boyfriend tells me exactly the same thing, he gets angry if he finds out I spent the day in bed or if I can't leave my house for days...he thinks I should get over things and feel happy at least when he is with me. He can't understand.
I think that giving him information is really important for him to be able to understand more...
Do you have a therapist?
I try to lean on my therapist and on a few close friends who do understand....
I feel terrible when my b/f gets angry because I am not smiling all the time and full of energy, but I try not to be so hard on myself and I try to explain as best as I can. Maybe it would help if you gave him more information...a book....a website to check..
I am sorry that he isn't more supportive...
I have tried to write to my b/f so he could understand and that helped....because pretending all the time that everything's fine is so painful. :o(
I hope you find more understanding...
Sending you lots of support,
Adia.
> I'm really not sure where to start with this post. I've been dealing with this issue for a while and it keeps eating away at me so I'm going to post it for others to ponder.
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> How do you explain to others that your depression is not caused by them and that you just can't snap out of it? My ex - the only true friend I have right now - insists that I should not be depressed as long as he's around. He's taking my depression personally. According to him, depression is for the weak and it's easy to rid just like a bad mood. Whatever.
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> It kills me that I can't talk to him about things and I feel that I have to fake a good mood just to see him. He won't even continue a phone conversation with me if I pick up the phone and sound depressed. I'm having a rough time at work and it's totally zapping what little energy I have. The combo of my ex plus work is making me a crazed person and all I want to do is withdraw from everyone and everything.
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> I'm tired of being tired all of the time. I'm tired of being moody. I'm tired of making excuses. I'm tired of crying in silence.
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> I really need your advice. I don't have any close friends other than him. I don't want to lose him and be totally alone but I'm having a rough time dealing with all of this. The only other person who knows my situation is my cousin and she's often too busy with her boyfriend to help me.
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