Posted by Susan J on September 29, 2003, at 8:44:12
In reply to The Human Loss :-(, posted by Susan J on September 22, 2003, at 10:17:29
Arrrrgh! Thanks so much for all the kinds words, guys. This situation is just killing me! I was just starting to feel almost normal again, and now my brother's going through this pain. It hasn't nosedived me, but I feel like I'm struggling.
But no, she's not an awful person for abandoning her kid. I *truly* think it's because she's depressed. When she was young, her alcoholic father left, and her mom had to care for 3 kids, and she didn't do a very good job of it. When *K* was a little girl she had lazy eye, and her mother just never bothered to get it fixed for her. So now K is blind in one eye.
Come to find out, K's son, my nephew, needs to have those tubes put in his ears, and whaddaya know? K has been slacking about making the surgery appointment for that for the past 2 months. My brother finally made it. Maybe K's mother was depressed way back when, too.
But. How do you get a depressed person to at least acknowledge they may be depressed and go talk to someone?
I mean, I went to therapy and the doc's because I felt so bad I couldn't function. I wanted to do *anything* that would make me feel better. Why hasn't K reached that point? She's miserable in *everything* she does right now....
Thanks,
Susan
poster:Susan J
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