Posted by HannahW on September 26, 2003, at 15:15:01
In reply to Very Common! » HannahW, posted by Susan J on September 26, 2003, at 14:31:08
>>I've gone through that phase several times in my adult life (I'm 36) and it can be horribly lonely. It become harder as you age and get out of school. I think you are doing the right thing, trying to strengthen current friendships. People don't seem to put the effort into meeting and nurturing friendships the way they do romantic relationships.
> I agree that it's harder as an adult (I'm 34), and that people don't put much effort into making new friendships. I think that once people have their "friendship quota" they are not particularly receptive to making new friends. >I'm with you in that I don't like going into groups where I don't know a soul. It's a terrifying thought. I don't really feel like I have the time or energy to volunteer, but I've always wanted to join a book club. Maybe I should check for postings at the library.
> I think you are "doing it right" if you are sincere about the whole thing.
On the other hand, some people just seem to have a knack for attracting people. I love those people, but I'm not one of them. And I can't figure out why. I know I'm a great person with terrific qualities. Why can't other people see that? I think my shyness/insecurity makes me seem standoffish, which doesn't help at all.> And if you live anywhere near Washington, DC/Baltimore area, wanna get coffee? :-)
Damn! My first individual social invitation in forever, and I live on the other side of the country! :)
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