Posted by fallsfall on September 23, 2003, at 22:21:37
In reply to Re: Words for the unwise?, posted by kara lynne on September 23, 2003, at 18:03:12
Yeah! Kara's talking to me!
I don't yet understand how things are "worked through" in therapy. Your issues with your ex relate back to your parents. I think that you need to start finding out how they relate and then do whatever the magic thing is that therapists do when you "work through". I think that you will experience the pain of being apart from your ex until you do that.
I am going through the same process with my old therapist. She "disengaged" from me (seemed bored, didn't initiate anything etc.) the same way my mom did (she doesn't understand emotions). I'm seeing the connection, and I understand why my therapist's behavior hurts me so much (she was finally giving me the nurturing I wanted from my mother - but then she stopped). I don't know what the next step is. Last session we talked about my therapist and what went on between us. I see him again on Thursday. I'll tell you if I know more then!
It is so hard. But this really isn't about your ex - he just happens to be in the right place.
(((((Kara)))))
P.S. Don't call him. Think about it some more first.
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