Posted by madwand on September 10, 2003, at 13:50:47
In reply to Feelings:'(, posted by galkeepinon on September 10, 2003, at 0:09:20
Galkeepinon,
Sometimes I wish the whole concept of "self-centered" and "pity-pot" had not been invented -- IMHO they do more harm than good.
I am a relatively newcomer here and have only posted a few times. But am not new to where it sounds like you are at. And I confess I am not really good at being "supportive", but I have noticed one particular thing that helps when I am in that kind of space, and that is allowing myself to be there.
Sounds trivial? It really isn't. It is amazing how programmed we are against that, as evidenced by the concepts mentioned above ("pity pot", "self centered"). While it is not any kind of instant cure, I have found it to help. I know -- it is very counter-intuitive (when every part of you is screaming to "make this better"), but (at least for me) it seems like the harder you fight it the stronger it gets (like struggling in quicksand).
In other words, "its OK to be not OK", and to blazes with all of those folks (inside and outside of your head) telling you otherwise!
In re-reading this I am almost tempted to deleted it (it looks trite when I read it) but I am going to put it out there anyway (i.e. "take what you need and leave the rest"). And hang in there. You are beloved part of this board and you are not alone!
poster:madwand
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