Posted by Sebastian on September 8, 2003, at 19:11:14
In reply to On the Mind of the Addict, posted by Temmie on September 8, 2003, at 16:08:49
In a way I was that man in a previous life. No I don't have any kids or A&B's, what ever thay are. But I was heavy into drugs, moved in with a girlfreinds, she through me out, later wanted me back but I wasn't interested anymore. But I know of lots of this type of relationship, here's my annalogy:
1. He's in jail, most likely he won't change when he gets out, more likely will get worse.
2. He was covering his lifestyle when he met you, posibly a hole.
3. Momentary change in idelation, failed for the more worse, he was craving more drugs.
4. He had only started going down hill, which I doubt, with the previous bad relationships.
5. You could end up like the others if you give in when he comes around again. Very likely.
6. He's come into money elsewhere and wants nothing to do with you now. That's why he left for a large crack binge.
7. You know the flat affect personality of his now, thats probably the one that will stay.
8. He loves drugs and will never change.
9. You don't have any permanent ties with him, do you? May be you want to lose him, especialy when he comes back apon anouther hard time, and gets real interested in you, when that $50,000 offer comes up in New Yotk. Who knows what troble that could bring you??
10. If he ever changes, it probably won't be for many years, even then he won't be the same person you saw befor.
Hope I can help?
Sebastian
PS: Took me 10 years of using drugs to finaly come round.
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