Posted by Susan J on August 18, 2003, at 13:09:25
In reply to I'm Okay Dinah, thank you : ), posted by gabbix2 on August 17, 2003, at 22:26:32
> Mostly the anger was things that there can't realy be any thing done about now, you know
like people who should have protected me when I was a kid and didn't. People who should be in jail and aren't.
<<Wow, you have a lot to be angry about, and rightfully so. I hope you don't mind a stranger jumping in on your conversation, but your post really touched me.> I think what topped it off was recently about 8 weeks ago after INSISTING he had no money to help me with therapy, and knowing how badly i've been abused. My dad actually got his nose out of joint because I wouldn't take a set of 10 prepaid chiropractic sessions that would have cost more than 800.00. ...because as far as I see it if you have 'no money' you have 'no money.'
<<So often parents, no matter how hard they try, don't handle situations properly. In his own way, I'm sure your father is trying to help you.
I wish he could somehow realize that he needs to listen to "you" and what "you" need. How old are you? Can you get insurance on your own?I can see that you've transcended your father in emotional maturity. He's emotionally unhealthy and probably not the best provider of support. I'm not sure who posted it, but whomever said it might be best to disengage emotionally has a good point. If you are living with him, however, that might be really tough to do. The fact that you want therapy probably is a constant reminder to him that he has failed you, and with long-lasting consequences. He might only be able to handle the thought of something safe like chiropractic, rather than psychological help.
You sound like a very strong person with a good head on your shoulders. Even if your father cannot or will not grow emotionally, you can, and you have. I wish you the best with everything.
poster:Susan J
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