Posted by Susan J on August 13, 2003, at 8:30:05
In reply to Any Men (or women) Out There With Dating Advice??, posted by Susan J on August 12, 2003, at 15:54:52
Thanks, guys, I appreciate the input.
Well, the type of guy I go for.
I want a guy who is emotionally open, physically and verbally affectionate, honest, dependable, has some stuff at least in common with me, and cares about ethics like I do. I can weed them out just fine if they don't call when they say they will, don't show up, lie about dating others, steal stuff, etc. :-)I liked the comment about dating only a guy you'd be friends with. It always starts out that way with me. I'm kind of shy, and I have to know someone a little before I can figure out if I'm attracted to them or not. But it goes back to my always seeing somebody in a positive light and then for some reason, ignoring the faults that start appearing later.
I dated a guy for four years. He was honest, dependable, we had stuff in common. Seemed fine. But he would never have sex! (Can I post that?). The issue was HIS depression and failure to recognize it. Now, going for a year or two with a BOYFRIEND who doesn't want to make love to you just kills your ego. So, I asked him to move out finally.
Met a guy who seemed really nice, definitely emotionally open, a neatnik like me, bike rider like me, cared about ethics like me. Sounded perfect....well, ended up he was so scared of emotional intimacy he shut down totally to the point he wasn't eve human. When I felt like I just wanted to die one night, he wouldn't console me on the phone because he needed to hook up his stereo system....
But I'll definitely take the friend comment to heart.....I saw signs of this last guy not being even good friend material fairly early on....just wanted to be "happy" so I ignored them...
Thanks!
poster:Susan J
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