Posted by Tabitha on August 13, 2003, at 1:20:31
In reply to Any Men (or women) Out There With Dating Advice??, posted by Susan J on August 12, 2003, at 15:54:52
Susan, I'll give this topic a shot. IMO, it's a combination of 2 things
1) giving the right vibe
2) weeding out the jerks and noticing the decent guys who are interested.To give the right vibe, I think it's just a matter of seeming like a stable, mature, ladylike person. When I was younger and cultivated a little bit of a bad girl persona, with obvious moodswings and alcohol abuse, of course the decent guys were scared off quickly. Being too overtly sexual is also sure to scare off the gentlemen and attract the creeps. Not knowing you at all, of course I don't know if these things are an issue for you.
The next one is just noticing the decent guys who might be interested, and steering clear of the not so decent guys. The decent guys won't hit on you so much-- you have to be more receptive to notice their interest. Dinah made a great point-- ask yourself if he's the type of guy who could become a trusted friend. Look for character and integrity. To weed out the losers, just listen to your instincts. Do you feel completely safe going on a date with him? How do you think he'll act?
It's also good to find a guy who seems just a little bit smitten with you. That guy is more likely to make an effort to take you on a nice first date.
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