Posted by fallsfall on August 9, 2003, at 19:02:04
In reply to But then he left a *message*..., posted by kara lynne on August 9, 2003, at 15:54:35
Kara,
DO you want him to call you? Do you want to talk to him? Or do you want to move on with your life?
If you don't want to talk to him anymore then tell him that. It is OK if you are the one doing the rejecting. You would be taking care of yourself - that is a good thing.
He throws you into such a tizzy whenever he calls. That has to be really hard to deal with.
I had a therapist for 8 1/2 years. The sun rose and set on her. I lived (literally) to make her happy. I couldn't possibly imagine my life without her. Then some bad stuff happened and I left her and went to a new therapist. It was so hard to do that because I needed her SO much. But what I found was that I felt better when I stopped seeing her. I stopped being anxious all the time, I started to have more energy, I felt much better. I never would have expected that NOT seeing her would be good for me, but it was. The decision to leave was horrendous, but it was the right decision.
I know how hard it is to let go of something that you can't live without, but not only will you survive without it, you might thrive.
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