Posted by fallsfall on August 4, 2003, at 21:55:42
In reply to re: I can feel myself sinking... again, posted by yesac on August 4, 2003, at 16:52:07
Hi Yesac,
I won't pretend to give you roommate advice. The last time I lived with roommates was 1977. Does that date me, or what?? I will tell you what my daughter experienced in college, though. Freshman year she was paired randomly with someone. They were not very much alike (the roommate drank a lot, my daughter drinks none. the roommate watched TV all the time, my daughter didn't etc.) But they were able to agree on certain rules that let each have what was important to them. My daughter thought that it was great to get away from her friends by going to her room. If her roommate was a friend, then it is hard to get some breathing room. Sophmore year she roomed with a "friend". But the friend didn't grow up over the summer and wanted to do EVERYTHING with my daughter. My daughter couldn't get away from her - even by going to her room. So sometimes it is good when roommates aren't best friends.
It is hard to get to know people when you are feeling depressed. I think the "activity" idea is pretty good.
Good luck!
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