Posted by Dinah on July 24, 2003, at 21:27:27
In reply to Advice need....., posted by tina on July 24, 2003, at 16:17:48
Boy, if you figure it out, let me know. My husband and I are looking for "couple friends". People we could go to dinner with, that sort of thing. But the really nice people, I'm afraid of approaching. I'm always sure they're filled up with friends, and why on earth would they want me.
I've got most of the friends now that I had in high school, but have only met one since then. I met her in Lamaze class and we just kept running into each other everywhere. It seemed sort of silly not to become friends.
But other than that, I'm lousy at it.
There is a nice lady at work, so nice that I'm quite sure that she wouldn't want to be bothered by me. So I make sure I don't bother her. Finally it occurred to me that I was being so careful not to bother her, that I was being rude. So I started to be very careful to be friendly, and guess what? She was friendly back! Then I got sure I was defective again and withdrew.
So I've told you how "not" to make friends and influence people. Hope that helps. :)
poster:Dinah
thread:244937
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