Posted by Greg on July 24, 2003, at 18:04:30
In reply to Advice need....., posted by tina on July 24, 2003, at 16:17:48
Nikki has some good ideas for places to start, social gatherings. Just mingle and listen for topics that you're interested in. Even those you aren't but would like to learn about, and ask questions about the subject. When you're in a group of people, don't be afraid to suggest going out to eat, or to see a movie if that's appropriate.
Tina, when I spoke to you the first time, I was scared to death. But you made me feel so comfortable, that when both our feet hit the ground running, we became best friends. If you let people get to know the you that I know, you'll have more friends than you know what to do with.
Start small with a few people you know, and work you're way up from there. You'll do fine.
XO,
Me> How does a person make a friend? I mean a real life friend, not an internet friend.
> I haven't got any but I have no idea how to get one. I got married 10 years ago and haven't even tried to make or keep a friend. My marriage was my whole life. My husband was the only friend I needed but now I don't have him so I need to relearn the skills to make friends. I've gone to church but I still feel outside and very distanced from other people. I can converse and make jokes but I don't ever feel connected.
> If anyone has any real ideas, I'd appreciate a crash course in making friends.
> I know I sound like a simpleton but I really have no idea what I'm doing.
> thanks
> tina
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