Posted by fallsfall on July 10, 2003, at 16:29:00
In reply to Re: Landlady - again - more.... » kalyb, posted by Greg on July 10, 2003, at 12:58:37
Well, she is creative and thorough. But you still have rights to your life. I agree that you have to start pushing back, and that this is a good time to do so.
Choose the most important (to her) 3 or 4 reasons she gave. Tell her that you understand reason#1, and that you understand why reason#2 concerns her, and that you understand reason#3. (This lets her know that you did understand what she said and why it was important to her) Those are her needs. Then state yours (simply.). Explain why you can still meet her needs (i.e. to have the animals and house taken care of) while meeting yours.
You may lose this one, but you will at least have started laying the groundwork for the successes of the future!
Good Luck
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