Posted by bookgurl99 on June 9, 2003, at 16:55:42
In reply to Re: Lots of changes and upheaval at home, posted by noa on June 9, 2003, at 16:18:50
> I wonder if her kind of "fleeing" fantasies are at all because maybe she fears that she has failed you as a financial anchor for your relationship. Or the fear that now that she isn't bringing in the good income, what would you want her for anyway?
This is so true! She has said something along the lines of now I'm going to leave because she's not a good provider. This is strange, because she didn't have a fancy job when we started dating and I accepted her then, y'know?
Maybe I need to give her more reassurance that I love her regardless. I thought she knew! I think abuse survivors in general can question if others love them for who they are or if they're trying to 'get something' out of them.
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