Posted by Miller on April 3, 2003, at 15:05:55
In reply to Re: Child abuse questions....., posted by sienna on April 3, 2003, at 13:46:10
Sienna,
I am also sorry for anyone who has had to go through a horrible time with their parents. I do understand what you are talking about regarding labels. I have gone through all of it as well. What is illegal now, would not have been when I was growing up. So I do have some events that would have crossed the legal line back at that time, but I also have events that would have been excessive, but probably ignored.
I didn't really ever talk it all out as you have described doing. I did mention it, but during THIS therapy with a competant therapist, I now see the purpose of seeing it all honestly. I will eventually need to get my anger directed to those who deserve it, not myself. Once I feel the anger towards my parents (I am told and believe) I can start the process of forgiving.
I wanted to grow up and be like my dad. Even though I was his daughter and my brother was older, I had this (irrational) hope that if I was like him, he would love me more and maybe I could get the attention I so craved. It never happened.
Anyway, I would hate to bore you with my ISSUES (capitalized for effect) so I will let you know I am willing to listen and support you through this rough journey of yours. Anytime you would like to post, I will do my best to answer as quickly and honestly as I can.
You are taking a big step just by starting to look at it as other's would. Our own perspective isn't always accurate, to say the least.
I wish you the best. Thank you for posting. I feel better knowing there is someone else struggling as I am. I don't like being alone, no matter how much I push people away. :)
-Miller
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