Posted by daizy on March 11, 2003, at 9:07:36
In reply to Re: Get a grip » kazoo, posted by Dinah on March 11, 2003, at 8:10:54
> Some of us spend our lives trying desperately to get a grip. To gain the perspective that we *know* we should have. And being doubly angry with ourselves when we can't. Get a grip, get over it, you can think yourself better. All those things just increase my self hatred. It's easy enough to know what we *should* think, or feel. A lot harder to have it seep in to a different level of ourselves. The level where the emotional responses occur.
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> That's the part I've never figured out about CBT, how to translate an intellectual understanding into an emotional understanding. If intellectual understanding in itself were enough, I'd be the most emotionally healthy person around. In fact on one level of my existence, I walk around as the "should" girl. Feeling as I should, saying and doing what I should. All rational and reasonable. And it angers the hell out of the other level of myself, the level that wants to rip the "should" part of me to shreds and feel what I feel.Thank you Dinah, you put into words exactly how I feel! Kazoo, I know what it is I have to do, Its doing it that is a different matter completely. I am grateful for what I have, but this depression clouds it and makes it hard to see sometimes........I wish I could just get a grip, but saying it doesnt just make it happen.... I see where your coming from though.....
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