Posted by Phil on January 11, 2003, at 11:55:42
In reply to Speaking of sudden downturns, posted by Dinah on January 11, 2003, at 10:08:39
Dinah, This is one of lifes really heart-wrenching times and you have a ton of company. Not that that helps much.
This is way easier said than done but you have to do it anyway..You can't live their pain and you can't feel guilty. All you are doing is making you suffer too.
They are frustrated with their diminishing abilities and have to realize that you aren't responsible for their happiness. Trying to guilt you kids is almost a requirement of aging.One day we may be 75. If I'm nearing the end, I hope I can offer unselfishness and hope to others and also realize that I may have to understand even if I don't think I can.
If my life is a wasteland of failure, then right before I go, I hope I can pinch the nurses butt as my last act-no matter how big he is. : )
When my mom was dying, I was too. There are a few incredibly painful memories of that time. I did quickly learn to think of the positives and not dwell on something even God couldn't change.
faith...God's right there with you and not even mom and dad come before God. He won't let you down.
poster:Phil
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