Posted by Alara on January 2, 2003, at 2:00:14
In reply to Bluedog, ask her out! » bluedog, posted by bookgurl99 on December 28, 2002, at 0:15:42
Yeah, Bluedog, ask her out!
If you have watched her for a whole year and have enjoyed a couple of conversations with her, chances are that you already have some rapport, however negligible you may consider that to be. (We socially anxious people tend to be self-effacing - so it is possible that you are underestimating the degree of rapport that you already have with her.)
If you ask her out, she won't bite you. I can guarantee that because sensitive people like you are drawn to other sensitive people.
Why not devise a fall back plan? If you ask her out and she accepts, it could be the beginning of something wonderful or something that's just OK. (All dating experiences put us on valuable learning curves, by the way.) If she declines, have a reward ready for yourself to congratulate yourself on going outside of your comfort zone and doing something about building relationships in your life. (eg; Get a massage!)
Remember that this girl is human just like you.Please, please let us know how it goes. Good luck! :-)
Alara
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