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Re: compliments » Susan G

Posted by *alii* on August 27, 2002, at 23:30:54

In reply to compliments, posted by Susan G on August 27, 2002, at 23:04:13

>>>>> My impulse is to always discount compliments when they're given to me. I end up trying to argue the complimentor out of the compliment which usually just leads to an even more awkward exchange of compliments and denials. So I've tried to make myself just say, "thanks". It was hard at first but it's easier now and it does feel pretty good.<<<<<

I won't get into how I feel about compliments but I will share what my mother taught me:

"When someone compliments you (and you want to deny/refuse/etc.) you say 'thank you' put on your nicest smile and close your mouth (shut up!)"

My ma said this with love mind ya.....but it does get me to chuckle because I've passed it along to so many people in my life. When an old friend of mine receives a compliment from me he first hems and haws and then quickly says 'thank you....look I'm smiling and now I'm shutting up!' Very comical to have the commentary on his smiling and hushing up.....he's a wiseass but still the message lives on......

~~alii full of anxiety ack!


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